As I'm moving forward in my life and making changes, reflecting comes naturally. Please excuse me for being all philosophical these days, but I think we all have periods in our lives, usually those of transition and change, that naturally push us to reflect. It's part of our natural progression- of each one of our opportunities to learn, grow and become better people. Some embrace it, others simply dismiss it and go about their lives just as they did yesterday. I am an embracer.
Obviously, I needed to make changes in my life. I was not happy. I was in a rut. Things were not right, no matter how hard I tried... Well, I say "tried," but in retrospect, I was trying the wrong way. Instead of letting go and moving on, I was going against Einstein's advice, and doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It was only a matter of time before I would have to be ready to accept this reality, and no matter how difficult to make the transition, to leap out of my comfortable, yet painful, world to try something new. Plus- somewhere in the process of life, I lost a lot of my dreams, my ambitions, my drive... things I've always had. I needed to come out of my shell... again. I'm also coming to realize that periods of re-discovering oneself probably happens multiple times throughout each person's life. In my relatively short 28 years, I can think of probably 2 times I've gone through something similar.
So... back to my reflecting. My latest realization (I say realization, but it's not that I haven't thought of these things before. Rather, it's like an "Ah ha!!" moment where it just seems to click. You know what I mean?) is that life really is what you make of it. You choose your destination and your life journey from the choices you make. These include the leaps or chances you chose to take(or not).Do you chose to follow your gut, or stick in your comfort zone?...The people you choose to surround yourself with (they really do affect your mood and reflect in yourself)... The attitude you chose to have- I like to think it's true that a positive outlook will inspire positive results (even with setbacks)... The actions you choose to make, especially when they affect other people (Selflessness really does go a long way. And karma is a bitch)... etc, etc, etc. You get the idea. You design your own destination.
If you are happy sitting in your comfortable yet unsatisfying job, staying in the same dead end relationship and doing the same thing day in and day out, then by all means, keep doing it. But you only live once, so why not make the best of it? Go the extra mile... surround yourself with awesome people, adopt a healthy attitude and lifestyle, do little things that will make you happy, let go of the things that are holding you back or not serving you, and take the chances. What have you got to lose, after all?
I am finally starting to see the bright side again and am using this transitional period to make changes, follow my dreams and take chances. And although the pain still shows it's face, I am adopting a few philosophies. For instance, the reality is that in life, bad things happen to good people. It's unavoidable- you can't control the actions of others or outside circumstances. You can however, control your reactions to the situation, and therefore, the end outcome. You can either try to learn the lesson and make the best of it, even though it's difficult at times, or suffer through the pain indefinitely. Sometimes I think you have to dwell in the painful stage for a while in order to realize that, unfortunately (but hopefully the lesson will stick for a while). Something to keep in mind, though...a wise man once told me that sometimes bad things happen so better things can come along!
There's something for you to chew on.
Happy hump day, ya'll!
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